"The colossal misunderstanding of our time is the assumption that insight will work with people who are unmotivated to change. Communication does not depend on syntax, or eloquence, or rhetoric, or articulation, but on the emotional context in which message is being heard. People can only hear you when they are moving toward you, and they are not likely to when your words are pursuing them. Even the choices words lose their power when they are used to over power. Attitudes are the real figures of speech".~ Edwin H. Friedman
Respond to the quote follwing the three steps mentioned below:1. Initial response (paraphrase in your cown words)
2. Agree/Disagree
3. Explain why you agree or disagree with the quote. Remember to elaborate using the strategies of making connections [text-self, text-text, and text-world]and also relate to the intelleginet behaviors.
32 comments:
I think that this quote is how people talk,they don't have to talk in a complicted way.People can talk any way they want.It's like the freedom of speech,the freedom to talk in any way you want.I agree with this quote because it say that we can talk any we want,Edwin was taking a responsibie risk when he said"Communication does not depend on syntax, or eloquence, or rhetoric, or articulation, but on the emotional context in which message is being heard."It also says that to try saying things with emotion
I think mr. Friedman is trying to say that the huge misunderstanding of our time is assuming that insight will work with people who are unwilling to change.Communication doesn't depend on syntax,eloquence,rhetoric,or articulation but on the emotive context in which message is being heard.People only get into the conversation if they are willing; and not when they are trying to get away because of pursuing words.Attitudes are the actual figures of speech.I agree with the quote;because if you are trying to persuade people by force,they will not care about what you are saying.In fact,they will be trying to get away from you.For example,once a man came to our door telling my mom about christianity and how great it was and so on.But he only said several setences before my mom said that she had to take my sister to a soccer game.This proves that this quote is correct.If the man thought flexibly,he'd know that people who are unwilling to change will not accept.That is what I think of this quote.
Good job, Malik, I am impressed!
I think the author is saying the huge failure is taking things for granted that people won't motivate to change. Communication doesn’t have to always depend on the patterns or rules so studied, the study of art using language with fluency and aptness, study of elective using language or the actor process of articulating speech but on the emotional context the message has been said. When you move toward people its better for people to hear you. They sure won't like to hear you when you are pursuing them. Even the choices of words lose their power when they are used to over power. Attitudes are the real figure of speech.
I agree with this quote because he his right we take things for granted that insight will work with people who aren’t even motivated, communication doesn't have to depend on the syntax, eloquence, or rhetoric, or articulation. We can't communicate with someone not toward us. They won't listen to you if your words are pursuing them. Attitude is the real figure of speech that people will listen or answer you if you have great attitude. Attitude is very important. Once there was a girl at the store not using great Attitude with the customer so why should the customer ever come back in the store. Without using great attitude no one will listen and understand your empathy. No one will ever want to talk to you. Attitude is a really important figure of speech!!!!!!
The author of this quote is trying to say that many people believe that insight or the act of apprehending the inner nature of things is the way to pursue someone to do something. But in reality if your words are what people are trying to run away from, then the words lose all their power.The only way to motivate someone to do something they normally wouldn't do is to make people come toward you as a result of the emotional context that the message was told in.
I agree with this quote because not many people like to use the intelligent behavior of listening or thinking flexibly when it comes to motivating them to do something they wouldn't normally do.The only way to make them listen is to tell them in a way that would encourage them and to make them come towards you because they might realize that what you are saying is right.I have experienced this in my life because alot of times in the mosque there are people that are trying to raise money for a good cause and at first not many people want to donate.But after the sheikh talks about how it is important for people to donate and the benefits of donating, many people end up donating because of the emotional context the sheikh used.
I think this quote means that you should watch your words because words are strong. They have a lot of power and almost an attitude. It's giving the message that it's almost stronger than a punch or kick. I agree with this quote. I agree with this quote because I've experienced that fact that words are stronger than ANYTHING physical. It's very true.
I can make a text-world connection because when people have wars, it just makes everything worse and people and things just die. Words are much stronger than any gun, or ANYONE'S fist.
My initial response to this quote is that talking fancy and rhetoric speeches wont work for an unmotivated person. The key to convincing an unmotivated person is to talk with understanding and emotion ,then he might change.
I agree 100% because if someone explained to me about their perspective in a fancy speech, without understanding my point of view, considering his point of view is not important to me. I think that Mr.Friedman was using an intelligent behavior ,because he was questioning a real problem.
I think what Edwin H. Friedman is trying to say is that misunderstanding of our time is the unmodivated that people are not accepting to change.Communication does not depend on syntax, or eloquence, or rhetoric, or articulation but on the context in which messeage are being heard, people can only uderstand you and get to the conversation if they want to or they are willing, and not trying to run away from the pursuing words. Attidude is the real figure of speech. I agree with this qoute because you have to think flexiblity and gather your thoughts. For example, someone went to my uncles house and told about christian and about thier religon. He was trying to force my uncle to change but my uncle said that he had to do something so the guy could stop forcing him into changing. If the man thought fleixbly then he'd know that people dont want to change or dont like to be force to change.
I think that this quote means that the way you speak to people really shows what you mean better than your actions do. There is a saying that actions speak louder than words and I think that is part of what the author is trying to say. Also, the author is trying to say that the biggest musunderstanding of our time is that people who are unwilling to change can be changed by our actions or words. Also, that our attitudes really show what we mean better than our words. Also from the intelligent behaviors, the part about using all our senses, managing our impulsivity fits in with this qoute because we need to use all our senses and really look at our actions before we hurt someone. managing our impulsivity means that we don`t just say or do anything we feel like just to convince or change peoples minds, like once there was this person who was trying to scare someone into becoming a christian(this is from a story I read online a long time ago). That is not the right way and it did not work obviously. We show ourselves in our actions more but also a little in our words. Noone in the whole world will be changed if they don`t want to, and especially if you communicate with them in the wrong way.So basically, we should talk and act in a good way because our actions tell what we think and mean better than we can tell people.
My initial response to this quote is that i think it is very true. Edwin Friedman is trying to say that "The colossal misunderstanding of our time is the assumption that insight will work with people who are unmotivated to change." This means that people will only change if they want to and if they are motivated to change.
"Communication does not depend on syntax, or eloquence, or rhetoric, or articulation, but on the emotional context in which message is being heard." This is very true for example, when Barack Obama gives a speech to become president he talks about ending the war in Iraq. This message connects to people emotionally because some people have families that live there and fight in the war.This makes people vote for Barack obama.
"People can only hear you when they are moving toward you, and they are not likely to when your words are pursuing them." When people are interested in a speech they pay attention to it so you don't have to pursue them to listen.
Speech is an intelligent behavior. When people gives speeches they think about what they are going to say to the audience to try and pursue them.
Communication does not have to do with language, or practice, or your accent, or your hand or leg movements. It is about your body language and your 5 senses. Your body tells your mood or what you are thinking of.
I agree with Edwin H. Friedman because without body language we wouldn't be able to tell if you are happy, sad, or mad. this whole world would be a confusing place. Everyone wouldn't know what to do or know where to go. We will be lost and forgotten people. We would have no friends or family to cheer us up.That's why communication is the most important thing in this life.
I think this quote means that there is a big misunderstanding of our time and its the assumption that in sight it will work with people that are unmotivated to change.Communication doesn't depend on syntax,eloquence,rhetoric,or articulation but on the emotive context in which message is being heard.People can only listen to you when they are moving toward you,not when you are pursuing them with your words.Attitudes are the real figure of speech.I agree with this quote because when you are pursuing them they are not going to listen to you.One time somebody knocked on the door to tell us about christianity.They were just talking and talking about their religion so we can change our minds about Islam.We weren`t really listening to them because we believe in only one god Allah.
In my opinion, this quote means that it is not easy to change a person who is not ready or willing to change. Communication does not depend on repeating things over and over, how meaningful the speech is or how smoothly it is preformed, but in the emotional context in which the message is being heard. People can only hear you when they are coming towards you, meaning when they become interested, and will not be likely to listen if you keep pursuing them. Even the best good words become the worst when used to over power. Attitudes are the real figure of speech.
I agree with Edwin, for he is saying that it is very hard to persuade someone to do some thing that they do not want to do in the first place. This reminds me that once my family and I were going to a family party at my grandparent’s house. We had come early to help out before our cousins came. As we were walking to the front door, a group of people we didn't know were talking to my grandpa, and then they left. I asked my grandpa why they were there, and he told me that they were asking my grandma and him to go to church. It had been hard to make them go, so my grandpa just told them that he and my grandma had gone to our own church, or Masjid, on Friday.
i think that the quote is trying to tell us that our communication does not depend on what we say, it is how we say it. we have to show our actions.i agree with the quote because we need to show that we want to keep talking. we need to make people interested in what we are saying. i think that the author is thinking flexibly when he said that communication does not depend on syntax,eloquence,rhetoric,articulation. you need to choose the right set of words ,or else nobody would like to talk to you.
I believe the author of this quote is saying that whenever you say something to someone who isn't open to that conversation then there will be no response or discussion of that subject. If a person disusses a topic with emotion, that person may be more willing to discuss it further and may be a better response.
I agree with this quote because there always is a time when someone tries to make you do something by lecturing or pushing their ideas too far on the person that he/she will not respond or make a change in their behavior.
For example, long ago during the life of Prophet Muhammed (PBUH), people would come to listen to him because of his soft speech and manner. This shows that if you use emotion and soft tones will get you encourage more people to listen to what being is said than if someone just speaks in harsh tones and rude manners. This quote supports the use of the intelligent behavior of using your 5 senses to know how best to speak and think about how to speak to the other person to get the best response.
I think Edwin H. Friedman is saying that a big misunderstanding of our time is the guess that insight will work with people eho do not want to change. Communication does not depend on syntax, eloquence, rhetoric, or articulation, but on the way your message is being heard.People can only hear you they are moving toward you and do not like to listen when you are pursuing them. Your attitude is the real figure of speech.
I agree with this quote because no one will listen to you if you are pursuing them. They will not listen, and will not be paying attention. For example sometimes we get an advertisment call and someone is trying to sell something,nobody wants to talk to them because it is taking your time away. On the otherhand, if your speech has emotions then that would make people want to listen.
My idea of what Mr.Friedman is trying to say is that people have to accomplish their tasks with out force. If someone is pursuading you to do something, you would most likely drag away.
That is why we have to get people to communicate properly without persuading. Communication should never rely on synteax, or eloquence or rhetoric or articulation because your real attitude will show the truth and reveal the positive attitude.
Ex:The prophet had to spread Islam and to do that he had to say why converting to Islam is a wise decision to make.People trusted the prophet from his emotional context. He never pushed anyone to do something, because Allah said in the Quran " Never to push someone to convert." I agree with this quote 100%, because a person will never convince anyone to do something by force.I have experienced this in many ways. The best example, is when I work in a group. Team work and communication all rely on your attitude. By being pushy, you will not accomplish the task, whereas, when you work cooperatively and show positive attitude, no pursuading will happen.
When Mr Friedman quoted this, he was thinking flexibly and was using past knowledge to new problems.
I think that Edwin is saying that we don't care abouth anything and are becoming lazy instead of changing to believers of Allah.I agree with Edwin because more lots of people are becoming lazy and are having attidudes. People are taking control over other people right before our eyes.People are pursuing people by telling them to do what they want them to do, as in if I'm telling someone to go get me a million dollars and work hard for it do you think they'll do it? Obviously they won't because they don't think your nice and they'll see that you don't care about them. That is what I think Edwin is saying in this quote.
Hello everyone,
The quote to me says if your going to change, you must change on your own. And, that you can't get a message through if no one is listening. So I agree. Forcing people to listen will block them out completely. I have had some personal experiences. Lets just leave it at that. And so if your going to talk, say it to someone who will and want to listen.
Thank you for reading! Kemal.D.
My initial response is that you have to think before you say something mean or nice so people won't feel harsh, to not to go over board with saying stuff. I agree with this quote 'cause some times you say somthing & then some one gets all emotional about it too much. Another thing that it's saying is that when you want to say something you can undrstand someone in another way or they assum what they are saying. You should think with flexibilty to make sense of what you are saying. Once some one told me a important thing but understode it differently.
My initial response is that this quote is right some people fix their attitudes.I agree because some people just say the words they don't think about what they are going to say. even their communication is bad they should learn their manners. but if we tell them to learn their own manners they will go overpower on us and some people have guns you do not know that they can kill you with out anybody hearing or knowing that uyou are died. but if they start behaving we might aculy have a peacefull world without having cars beeping around we might have normal lives.
My initial response is that this quote is right some people fix their attitudes.I agree because some people just say the words they don't think about what they are going to say. even their communication is bad they should learn their manners. but if we tell them to learn their own manners they will go overpower on us and some people have guns you do not know that they can kill you with out anybody hearing or knowing that uyou are died. but if they start behaving we might aculy have a peacefull world without having cars beeping around we might have normal lives.
I think that tihs qoute means that you can't talk in one tone and the person is trying to runaway from your words;you have to express your words.It won't work if you try to use your words to over power or to get their attention;attitude is the real figure of speech.I agrre with this qoute because once I was bored in class and started yawning.That show that I'm bored but if just say this is boring that shows no expression.
Another example is that some people were calling my mom but my mom said she had no time still they kept calling her.It was like my mom was trying to run away from the words; also she was being forced to do something.Those people weren't thinking flexibily because they kept calling her.
i think that this quote is telling us that the big misunderstanding of our time is assuming that people will work with active people who have changed. communication is not depending on syntax,eloquence,metoric,and articulation but onlywhen the context in which the message is being heard.people hear you when they are coming toward you. they are not willing to when your word is seeking them.i agree with this quote;because when you are trying to seek people by pushing them than they will push you back "go away,leave me alone." once when we were at the store we saw two people giving newspaper so we asked for one. when we read it,it said that there was a person who did not stop murduring people.this meant that if we ask to stop he will not stop and do more.
My initial response is that we can not change your communication just by syntax,eloquence,rhetoric. I agree with this quote because we can not persuade people to listen to you.I know a person that always persuades people to listen to him or her. So we did not listen to her for a long time and she actually had maneged her impulsivity and she did not pursue others any more.
I think the author is saying the big misunderstanding of our time is assuming that insight works on people who are unwilling to change communication does not rely on syntax, eloquence ,rhetoric or articulation ,but on the emotional context in which the message is being heard. People only talk when they want to not when you pursue them. attitude is the real figure of speech and I agree because if you keep trying to persuade them they will not listen they will ignore you and not care what you think for example a week ago a college student came to our door and asked vary nicely and it was well thought out he said can you donate money so we can go help people sick and wounded in a tornado or hurricane we have already bin to many places helping so many kids he also showed us pictures of the kids in need and so we donated that is why this quote is so helpful and true.
I think this qoute is saying that not every one in the world talks perfectly
or in detail for example someone comes up to me and says lets go. I dont know were he is telling me to go or why to go.
My initial response is that this quote is talking about how to speak to others. The words have to be powerful, otherwise you can't understand those words. I agree with this quote because it's telling us how to speak. Sometimes I see people getting annoyed and doesn't want to hear what the others are talking about. Before saying words that aren't powerful, we should think flexibly. Thinking flexibly would make the words that you are trying to say more powerful and it would give some interest in others to hear what you want to say. This is what I think of this quote.
My initial response is that this quote is talking about how to speak to others. The words have to be powerful, otherwise you can't understand those words. I agree with this quote because it's telling us how to speak. Sometimes I see people getting annoyed and doesn't want to hear what the others are talking about. Before saying words that aren't powerful, we should think flexibly. Thinking flexibly would make the words that you are trying to say more powerful and it would give some interest in others to hear what you want to say. This is what I think of this quote.
This qoute is tyalking about how communication. It also says people can only hear you when they are moving toward you. Also it says that attidue are real figures of speech, word loose their power when they are used to over power.
I agree with this qoute because attidue are real figures of speech. Also som wprd do lose their power when they are used to over power. Baraa
In my opnion,I think that this quote is trying to say that to have people listen to you, you have to talk in a postive attitude. And that is how you will motivate them.
I agree with this quote:
test to self- you have to tell your self to talk good with others.
text to text- talk with others the way you would want to be talked with back.
text to world- everyone shoud talk with others in a nice way.
I think Mr.Freidman is trying to say that the huge misunderstanding of our time is assumption that insight will work with people who are unwilling to change.Communication does not depend on syntax,eloquence,rhetoric,articulation but on the emotional context.I agree with this quote because it is true that communication does not depend on on eloquence, rhetoric etc.I think he found huomour.
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